Rehearsal dinners can be tricky and seem exclusive to some guests, so it’s important to plan the guest list as thoroughly as the wedding day invitations. If you are trying to keep things simple, it is perfectly fine to keep the list at just the bride and groom, immediate family, the wedding party and officiate.

However, many weddings bring to town visiting guests, who have arrived earlier and likely spent a considerable sum to be able to attend. Including them is a nice gesture and makes them feel welcome during their time away from home. If you don’t feel comfortable including out-of-towners you may consider having a friend plan a location to meet for dinner or host a small cocktail party, so they can begin celebrating the big event too.

The rehearsal dinner should be a time to unwind and spend time with close friends and family before the wedding, so meticulous planning can avoid stress during a time when nerves are tense. Including your visiting guests in your planning shows them you care, and can reduce tension amongst attendees.