Choosing Bridesmaids… Dun, Dun, Dun…

This should be an easy task, right?  Wrong!!!!  I have had soooooo many people come to me and say “My fiancé wants me to have this person in the bridal party, but I don’t really know them.”  This is becoming more and more common, especially when there are siblings involved. 

Typically, if either the bride or groom has siblings or close friends, they are considered shoe-ins for a spot in the bridal party.  But why?  When choosing who is going to play a part in your special day, do you want someone that you don’t know that well?  NO!  You want to have someone that means something to you and has played a huge part in your life.  Remember, these are the people that will be around you throughout your whole wedding planning experience.  You want to pick someone that you get along with and that can get along with you.  There is a lot of responsibility and honor in being a bridesmaid and you want to have someone that accepts this responsibility and who will cherish and honor the role. 

It can also be very expensive to be a bridesmaid; the functions they have to attended, the gifts, the attire - all of these things have to be purchased by each member of the bridal party.  Someone who may not have a personal connection with you may not be as willing to do this. 

There are other roles for those individuals who are not as close to you who may still want to play a part in your big day.  They can read scriptures or do readings during the ceremony.  They could be ushers or hostesses.  These are still very important jobs that will allow them to feel included.

Happy Planning!

~ Shafonne Myers
Making Your Event Special